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| Toronto |
Posted - 12/25/2004 : 07:02:47
I have read a lot of success stories on this forum and they are very encouraging. People were able to re-program their brains to think on the psychological reasons, not physical when in pain. I believe in TMS theory and started getting some results using the same principles.
Did any of you deal with those emotions once you realized you had them? For example, in the past you were getting the back pain and didn't know why. You were concentrating on the pain only. Then you discovered the TMS theory and realized that your pain has nothing to do with your back, it is connected with your emotions (i.e. in this case when you get angry at your boss for not being promoted). So now, you know what caused your pain and it diminishes, but you are angry now! Did you deal with anger in this case? I know you don't need to solve your problem in order to get away the pain, but since you are angry now and not in pain, what do you do with your anger or you just stay in it until it "disappears" by itself?
In my case, if I don't have the back pain (since I know it is due to the emotions), I start to overeat, which is TMS as well. So, I know there are some emotions behind which I would like to resolve now. I don't want to be in pain (and I am not), but also don't to be frustrated or angry for two days. I am trying to find the techniques to deal with these emotions.
How do you deal with you emotions when you are frustrated, angry, sad etc?
Any suggestions?
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| Toronto |
Posted - 12/26/2004 : 10:59:22
JohnD, thanks a lot, I will check that book.
Baseball65, your post are always very inspairing and full of usfull information. Thank you!! |
| Baseball65 |
Posted - 12/25/2004 : 08:28:34
Hi Toronto
Merry Christmas!
You actually have described here the exact order I dealt with my problems(to date at least)
I got 100% pain free and returned to work as a painter in the Film Business....a job I now knew I HATED as a result of jounaling/inventory.
One day,as the anger was building and I was now completely aware of it,I almost decked this little "tough guy" who had said something stupid.....I felt that tingle in my scalp I used to get when I was a child and KNEW I was about to slug someone in the jaw.I had a fairly violent childhood.Not at home,but in the neighborhood...fought constantly between ages 8-16.Unmitigated emotion.
I made a move at him and he must have sensed my anger,as he backed down,but this is Childish,and I hadn't done something like that in 15 years!
I ended up quitting that show,because of that incident and my inability to get along with the Bosses wife,another source of rage that now had no cover.I quit a lucrative job,with a boss I'd been with for a long time, at a time when work was scarce.....but what's sanity worth?
That's when I got psychological help....I had started abusing drugs and alcohol after years away from them,was constantly on the verge of an altercation,and was miserable at work.My friends and Families advice to 'just ignore it' weren't working in light of my fear of TMS.
I found in Therapy the help I needed.I realized that I had a mountain of rage and guilt associated with my fathers death when I was 5 years old.
As the therapist asked questions and my experiences began to make sense,I saw the Mean-ness in the truest sense of the word......I was as obvious and average as a little angry boy could be....I finally saw with some perspective.I had recovered from the pain by simply acknowledging these emotions.I recovered from the rage by feeling the emotions.I spent many afternoons at the cemetery talking to my Father and crying,and writing and writing and reading it to my wife when I was done.
I have now been able to get into and OUT of situations without thinking of a violent solution OR having TMS.The key was the therapy and the raised awareness.....I still feel the same feelings,I just let them flow through,and I now SAY stuff that I never would before....it's actually quite disarming to other men,as they are not generally prepared for a statement like:
" Please don't talk to me like that...It makes me feel like you don't respect me and it really hurts my feelings...it's detrimental to our cooperative effort to get this job done efficiently"
so,I deal with emotions by being as bare bones,nakedly candid as I can be.....this of course makes a lot of other men really uncomfortable,as men tend NOT to talk about those type of issues.
But,than again....their backs,knees,shoulders all hurt and mine don't.
Many think me odd,but than again,I am....I'm the only person at work without a chronic condition...except for chronic 'emotionalism'
I'm sure some need not go to these sort of drastic measures,but for me it's the only way I can truly survive and live...really live.
Have a great Holiday!!
peace love and Curveballs
Baseball65 |
| JohnD |
Posted - 12/25/2004 : 08:06:45
I found a book called 'The Pathway' by laurel mellin very helpful for myself in dealing with the emotions that I had been repressing |
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