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| Villen |
Posted - 07/19/2008 : 15:37:50
Hi again
Ok, to make a long story short...I am struggling in my relationsship at the moment. My boyfriend and I have a break, and I freak out about every little thing, and get really jealous etc. I had a major panic attack earlier today because of something (which I probably misunerstood a little bit) I was sure I was dying, and now my body is a mess. My hearts racing and pounding wildy, and after the attack, my legs, especially the right one with TMS pain hurt more than ever. Is this repressed emotions, or is it because of the extreme tension and stresshormones earlier?
Is it like my bodys trying to protect me from not feeling those emotions I did?
I am in big pain emotionally, does that effect my pain in my legs? I thought that if I dealt with the stressor, the pain would ease...or is it the uncounciousness trying to tell me something?
Sorry for writing a little messy. Hope you can give some advice...
Villen
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| mizlorinj |
Posted - 07/21/2008 : 08:03:51
Villen, as I have suggested to you before, how about exploring your past to see WHY you are having these feelings. Start writing. What happened in your past to make you tend to 1) freak out and 2) be jealous? Did someone cheat on you before? Someone you know cheat on someone else? What was your family life like? Was there a tragedy where someone died suddenly? Did your parents project their feelings onto you? How did they make you feel? First thing I would do is explore my history. There has to be a reason for these fears.
This will be key for eventually reaching the reasonable expectation that "just because [ ] was like that does not mean I have to be!" I am my own person and have learned to repel when someone tries to project their insecurities, fears, etc. onto me. I've got my own stuff to deal with--don't need someone elses on me! 
Wishing you well,
-Lori |
| armchairlinguist |
Posted - 07/20/2008 : 18:49:16
Hi Villen,
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I thought that if I dealt with the stressor, the pain would ease...or is it the uncounciousness trying to tell me something?
It doesn't sound like you have dealt with your stressor at all. You have made one decision about a very complex situation. It might be a good decision but that doesn't mean you will feel less stressed about the situation.
The fact that you did something relating to your emotional life and then panicked and had pain is indicative of a relationship between your panic and pain and your emotional life.
The fact that you are here, worried and posting, suggests that your first step right now is still to understand and believe whether TMS really does apply to you. (I say 'whether' because I can't diagnose you -- it does seem to me that it does apply to you.) You are still in the basic cycle of emotional activity having physical effects. You need to observe that and connect that together and begin to understand how and why TMS affects you.
I would recommend you spend some time writing privately about your emotions and starting to understand what they are and where they are coming from. The goal isn't to analyze or solve them, just to acknowledge and express verbally, your feelings and their connection to your physical state. You are clearly under a lot of pressure, and writing that out can help you recognize the pressure for what it is and acknowledge that you are feeling it.
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| la_kevin |
Posted - 07/20/2008 : 11:27:47
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I am in big pain emotionally, does that effect my pain in my legs?
Do you mean "CAN IT"? Nobody here can tell you what is going on through the computer.
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I thought that if I dealt with the stressor, the pain would ease...or is it the uncounciousness trying to tell me something?
"UN"Consciousness? Sounds like you're way past that into the conscious. If you know that CONSCIOUS things are making you sick, then you haven't even begun to know what the UNCONSCIOUS is thinking.
You EXPECTING TMS to leave by dealing with 'stressors' will make you focus on it more. Expectations=control.Control= Bad for TMS.
And a confusing question considering this....
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My boyfriend and I have a break, and I freak out about every little thing, and get really jealous etc. I had a major panic attack earlier today because of something (which I probably misunerstood a little bit) I was sure I was dying, and now my body is a mess. My hearts racing and pounding wildy, and after the attack, my legs, especially the right one with TMS pain hurt more than ever. Is this repressed emotions, or is it because of the extreme tension and stresshormones earlier?
Doesn't really sound like you're 'dealing' with anything.At least not in the sense of ending your need for CONTROL. I can't express to people how important CONTROL is for TMS.
Change the need for control, and you change the perception of losing it (IT BEING AN ILLUSION ALL ALONG). Once you change the need for control, your anxieties decrease. Anxiety reduction = less fight or flight response from the Nervous System.
ETA: Sorry, I just realized that sounded kind of brash. Imagine me typing all that stuff in a nicer tone. I've had the stomach flu all week and I'm pissed.
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