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Screensize: 640 x 480 800 x 600 1024 x 768 1280 x 1024 UserName: Password: Format Mode: Basic  Help  Prompt  Format: Font Andale Mono Arial Arial Black Book Antiqua Century Gothic Comic Sans MS Courier New Georgia Impact Lucida Console Script MT Bold Stencil Tahoma Times New Roman Trebuchet MS Verdana   Size 1 2 3 4 5 6   Color Black Red Yellow Pink Green Orange Purple Blue Beige Brown Teal Navy Maroon LimeGreen Message: * HTML is OFF * Forum Code is ON Smilies [quote][i]Originally posted by Penny[/i] [br]I read this wonderful excerpt the other day and wanted to share here, as it offers something very helpful when dealing with anxiety, fear, or insert any other emotion us TMSers prefer to deny. This is from author Elizabeth Hamilton, book called Untrain Your Parrot. I've not read the book. [i]"A key point in working with fear is to keep asking a fundamental question: "What is this?" The question is not: "What is this about?" which leads to historical rehashes. The answer to "What is this" is always physical. For instance, let's say we're afraid a new acquaintance is going to write us off. Rather than withdrawing or turning on the charm, we take a few moments to feel our clenched neck and shaky hands and stay engaged in whatever is going on."[/i] I'd like to add, when I find myself physically experiencing negative emotions--not preventing them or judging them--they pass through me much more quickly. I believe analysis is critical to understand how we continue and often propogate behavior and patterns in our lives that contribute to emotional dishonesty (and thus TMS), but once we've looked at these patterns, taken great steps to change, and are living with better balance and harmony, then we need to move through unpleasant emotions to get to the other side of them. >|< Penny "Feeling will get you closer to the truth of who you are than thinking." ~ Eckhart Tolle [/quote]   Check here to include your profile signature.