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| 1yehmon2 |
Posted - 04/05/2008 : 23:23:54
This is my first time posting, so bear with me and my mistakes. I have known for many years that I have TMS. I have read Dr. Sarno's books years ago. I knew immediately that it was me, but my knowing did not cure the pain. I have had terrible stress for the last 6 years from an elderly, mentally ill Mother. I really COULD write a book about the Hell our family has been through. My pain started in 1999 after a bad car accident. I have been in horrible pain ever since. I cannot begin to tell you the thousands upon thousand of our own money that we spent, in addition to close to a hundred thousand that workman's comp spent( I was working ). This was all to no avail. I had worked at the job for close to 25 years. I was a respiratory therapist that traveled to visit patient in the home. I had a stellar work performance record. After the accident I missed much work due to pain, and was unable to do lots of my duties. This caused lots of bad feelings with my co-workers who had to pick up the slack. My boss set out to get rid of me. I ended up resigning before she fired me, as I wouldn't have been able to live with the humiliation. I really think all this stress and resentment over my treatment at work had alot to do with the pain not going away on its own. Then the Mom nightmare started. My physical pain was so intense, but the emotional pain was just as bad. During that time I read Dr. Sarno's book, and knew that was the answer, but the pain never went away. Then I got breast cancer...TMS???? Then two years later I got colon cancer....TMS?? I really believe so. I cannot escape the horrific problems with my Mother. The anger is so awful. She was just the most terrible terrible Mother to all of us, and now we have spent the last seven years dealing with her on a daily basis, sometimes for hours and hours a day. I resent her so much!!!! I really also believe that my anger and resentment have alot to do with the two cancers. My physical pain consumes me. I yell at it, curse it, make fun of it, try to ignore it, but still no progress. I have been writing in a journal for the past two weeks and really spilling my guts. The pain just seems to be getting worse and worse. I purchased the book, "Homecoming" that someone suggested and have been working on that. Boy is that deep. It gives alot of insight as to why so many of us had horrible parents that abused us either emotionally or physically. The book is about rescuing your inner child. I really hate phscho-babble stuff, but I will do whatever I have to do to get rid of this pain. I survived cancer twice, I don't want to tempt the grim reaper a third time. So I must get well. I am really counting on this board to help me through, and hopefully I can help others that are struggling. By the way, who do you all think will win the NCAA tournament? I love to watch it and am sad it's almost over. |
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| mizlorinj |
Posted - 04/07/2008 : 08:49:02
1yehmon2: I am very happy to see how open minded you are! Wonderful!
I go with the Louise Hay line of thought here, that cancer is likely emotionally caused (therefore a TMS equivalent). Louise gives great info in the Empowering Women book, as well as You Can Heal Your Life. The former talks about women she has studied who have had cancer (particularly breast cancer) take care of everyone but themselves and have a hard time saying "no" to anyone.
I also believe Louise is the one who says (or it could've been a doc in one of the other books I've read--and listed in my success story) that resentment and anger are cancer causes!! These findings are based on people's condition and then factors like personalities in common.
Louise's own experience is she had vaginal cancer and healed herself. No chemo, etc. She changed her thinking and diet and no longer has cancer. Her story is in the YCHYL book mentioned above. And as the other poster said, the dvd is great too. Her theme is: change your thinking; change your life.
I would suggest writing out your feelings or having a therapist with whom you can "let it rip" to get the feelings out of you. Release the feelings.
Best wishes and healing thoughts,
Lori
PS Can't answer your NCAA question! LOL |
| altherunner |
Posted - 04/06/2008 : 10:36:55
You may want to look at this site : www.germannewmedicine.ca
The doctor that started it got cancer after the traumatic death of his son, and has since studied many similar cases for the last 30 years. The dvd by Louise Hay, You Can Heal Your Life, is good, too. |
| altherunner |
Posted - 04/06/2008 : 10:33:24
You may want to look at this site : www.germannewmedicine.ca
The doctor that started it got cancer after the traumatic death of his son, and has since studied many similar cases for the last 30 years. cheers, Al |
| mk6283 |
Posted - 04/06/2008 : 08:53:45
I too am deeply sorry for all that you have been through and wish you only the best from this point forward. C is not TMS (unfortunately). That is not to say that emotional factors are not involved in either its origination, progression, or recovery -- they very well might be. However, fighting C requires a multifaceted approach that, at least for the time being, REQUIRES full adherence to established treatments and (more importantly) protocols for prevention/screening.
SUPPLEMENTING the available treatments with emotional work and positive thinking can clearly "work miracles" too. I highly recommend that you speak to someone or, at the least, start journaling regularly to help explore the underlying conflicts that you clearly have had to deal with. I also recommend reading "Spontaneous Healing" by Andrew Weil.
Lastly, Memphis has it in the bag -- they have been disrespected all tournament long despite the monster season that they had -- no body has given them a real chance. Good luck to you and keep us posted.
Best,
MK |
| HilaryN |
Posted - 04/06/2008 : 07:35:41
Welcome, Kathy.
When it comes to dealing with your mother on a daily basis, I wonder if the following book would help you:
"Nonviolent Communication" by Marshall B. Rosenberg
www.cnvc.org
It's a method of communication which focuses on expressing what we (and the person we are talking to) are feeling and what our (and their) needs are. Something we're not encouraged to express as we grow up, and therefore we even hide those feelings and needs from ourselves. Result, in my case: I struggle to identify those feelings and particularly the needs.
All the best,
Hilary N |
| penguins |
Posted - 04/06/2008 : 05:45:25
Hi, I am also sorry to hear about your stresses and pain. I'm new to the forum as well and have already had a great experience from a post I made. The woman who posted to you, Littlebird, is wonderful and offered me insight that I am thinking a lot about, as did another poster (Kristin).
What I'm learning here is that you will read a thread and find within it a quote or idea that will really ring true with you. Whenever I find one of these gems, I copy and paste it into a Word document, print it out and read and reflect on it throughout the day. This has been VERY helpful for me. My experience so far in dealing with TMS (it's been 3 weeks) is that for me it requires constant attention to and learning about my feelings. I'm actually really enjoying the process even though at times it's very emotional and difficult. I think the reason I am enjoying it is because each day I feel more empowered and in control of myself as well as in less pain. I wish you all good things in your life. Take care!
--Jennifer :) |
| Littlebird |
Posted - 04/06/2008 : 00:42:38
Welcome to the forum. I'm sorry to hear about all the stress and pain you've had to deal with. I really enjoyed that Homecoming book as well. It was very enlightening.
I think you'll find the forum to be a good place to learn more. It's been quite helpful to me. There are also a number of other books that people here have recommended which I've found useful.
You might want to check out the Success Story section of the forum for some encouragement. Hang in there! |
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