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| sborthwick |
Posted - 03/14/2008 : 07:16:56
Hello all,(previous log in was Suz)
I wanted to check in because I am still struggling with anxiety that switches with occasional headaches and back pain. I have been talking to a very Religious based therapist - has helped my prayer life but I am still getting symptoms.
The reason I stopped seeing Sarno's psychologist was two fold;
It seemed that it was going to take a very very long time - no end in sight to complete the treatment.
It really conflicts with my Religion....I am very Catholic and take the commandment about Honoring your mother and father really seriously. It is extremely difficult for me to allow myself to be angry at them. I feel compassion for what they went through - a horrible divorce etc. I got so angry when I worked with the psychologist and couldn't stand feeling that way towards my parents. Is this why I am still having physical symptoms??
I would love to come off my anxiety medication - as it has some side affects.
Uuugh...I keep thinking there must be another way of getting rid of this. I have ordered the Lucinda Bassett tapes too - not sure if they will do the full job though.
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| armchairlinguist |
Posted - 03/14/2008 : 11:11:01
Hi Suz,
I think it might help for you to try viewing this commandment in a broader context. Right now you are 'stuck' in a certain place with your feelings toward your parents. It seems that you probably do have some unconscious anger toward them. I think if you can work through these feelings, you will be in a better place to truly honor your parents for who they are and what they have done for you, while understanding that they are human beings and flawed just like all of us (I know that also is an important point in Christian thought).
An important thing to remember is that any anger you have toward them is only possible because you love them and care about them and they matter to you.
I have found that as I worked through things, while I do feel angry with my parents at times, I've also begun to feel more genuine compassion and forgiveness toward them than I could before. I truly believe that my work understanding and feeling my anger will lead me to have a better relationship with them and care for them more than I could otherwise.
Perhaps you should look for another therapist who is understanding of your religious views, but doesn't necessarily practice based on religion. Sarno's therapist doesn't sound like the best match for you. I hope that you can find someone to work with who can help you work through things in a way that's acceptable for you but also allows you to make genuine progress.
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| AmyAJJ |
Posted - 03/14/2008 : 08:20:29
I feel for you. I think my relapse of TMS symptoms
over the last few days is because I had started to
go to therapy also. The stuff we were talking about
was really pissing me off - all this digging around
in the past - and it made me fight with my boyfriend
too and that really sucked.
I guess that's another thing I can add to my list of
journaling stuff that I hadn't thought of the other
night. I'm angry that I went to therapy to try to get
some help and all I got was angry and arguments
with my boyfriend...and pain in my back again after
several months of being totally pain free.
Actually there were some insights I got in the sessions
but for the most part, I was pissed off about it so
I stopped going to take care of myself and then my
back did its thing anyway. UGH!
This morning I woke up at like 6 am because I was
coughing in my sleep and it was hurting my back so
much. And sneezing? Forget about it...major ouch.
I think you're onto something by connecting the fear
of getting angry at your parents as contributing to
your symptoms. I can find where that same kind of thing
has affected me with my TMS.
Maybe you don't have to actually get angry at your
parents - but just to acknowledge that there's things
you could be angry about. That's what I noticed the
other day doing the journaling pages. The childhood
page said to write down things you think could have
made you angry. Something like that. So maybe you don't
have to get all in touch with the anger, but just
to recognize that a divorce and whatever else happened
could have made you angry as a child but the anger got
repressed.
Hope you experience some peace today -
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