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Screensize: 640 x 480 800 x 600 1024 x 768 1280 x 1024 UserName: Password: Format Mode: Basic  Help  Prompt  Format: Font Andale Mono Arial Arial Black Book Antiqua Century Gothic Comic Sans MS Courier New Georgia Impact Lucida Console Script MT Bold Stencil Tahoma Times New Roman Trebuchet MS Verdana   Size 1 2 3 4 5 6   Color Black Red Yellow Pink Green Orange Purple Blue Beige Brown Teal Navy Maroon LimeGreen Message: * HTML is OFF * Forum Code is ON Smilies [quote][i]Originally posted by smashist[/i] [br]the human mind is an interesting structure in which most of the responses we have in our daily lives rest solely on our belief systems. i have some of the same tendencies as you, what i've found helpful in overcoming it is attacking those unhelpful beliefs at their root using affirmations. pick a good chunk of time during the day to begin "overwriting" these nonsense responses. this is possible to do, i've done it myself. in your case it would be something like "my actions are valid and okay. i am not concerned with the reactions of others. i am secure and safe in this mind, this body, and this universe." things of that sort. throw in some self-love and self-compassion too, those help a lot for any problem. just being understanding of yourself, treat yourself like a child who is still learning the ways of the world. that should help with the self-critical aspects of yourself. being self-critical is a strange phenomenon that i am familiar with myself. it's like you are your own overbearing, abusive parent. it's a living nightmare that causes you to change everything you do a thousand times in effort of getting it right. we don't need to do that anymore either. so affirm to yourself "the actions i take are valid and okay." myself, my tms symptoms always try to give me a hard time when i'm hanging out with people. i still have a lot of issues that i'm working out when dealing with others. it's more complex than i imagined. i'm working on just letting go and letting myself interact in a calm manner, expressing my emotions and frustrations fully. recently i've just been working with developing a feeling of safety around others, putting an end to social catastrophes that were only the product of my own mind. learning that it's okay to make "mistakes" in the social arena has been very beneficial for me. hope this helps scottio yeah right. [/quote]   Check here to include your profile signature.