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| altherunner |
Posted - 10/19/2007 : 06:27:26
It's easy to see the ego in other's posts, working on aggrandizement and self inflation all the time. It's harder to see it in your own posts. Dr. David Richo suggests not to destroy your ego, but let it hibernate over the winter, like a bear, and come out in spring, 25% smaller. He says this makes life "easier", maybe a little less tension, turning down the AOS dial a few notches. It is really comical to see the ego getting angry at other peoples' egos, in writing posted for all to see, when we have no idea who the person really is. This ego inflation seems to be the real gremlin behind tms/aos pain. Supposedly, we need a healthy ego to function, but it's usefulness is hidden to me. The F.A.C.E. of ego: Fear, Attachment, Control, Entitlement. |
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| altherunner |
Posted - 10/19/2007 : 22:53:25
These are fear based reactions of the ego self - to quote David Richo again:"One affront, even unintended, can keep the ego angry and mean-spirited for the rest of one's life. The essence of the neurotic ego is the terror of having to face the conditions of existence without control over them or entitlement to exemption from them." from The Power of Coincidence |
| carbar |
Posted - 10/19/2007 : 20:42:19
I appreciate the macro approach to all this back and forth.
Well, certainly there might be something about the sensitive aspect of the TMS personality that lends one to taking the opinions of others personally.
Now, why some folks go into attack and debate mode and others get sad and withdraw and others just stop posting, I'm not sure what determines the public reaction.
But what is at the base? Fear of rejection? Fear of embarassment?
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| altherunner |
Posted - 10/19/2007 : 17:29:48
No need to pick on anyone - we all have egos. Facing my own fears, attachments, controlling, entitled behaviour, and anger is key. I've been working on it - My "AOS dial" does seem to be lowering (ie:no symptoms). When one is insulted, automatic ego repair mechanisms go to work - someone calls you and idiot, right away you call them an even bigger idiot. Sometimes, by not responding, and leaving that "deflated" feeling be, not adding to the madness, you feel strangely better. Not surpressing, but feeling the imaginary damage, and let it go. This has helped at work, dealing with annoyed customers. Seeing the madness, not adding to it, seems to starve the little monster. |
| shawnsmith |
Posted - 10/19/2007 : 10:14:36
Some good points altherunner. Possibly you can expand on what you have written. Feel free to use my postings as an example of ego aggrandizement and self inflation. If the truth hurts me, so be it.
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Sarno-ize it!
Read chapter 4 of Dr. Sarno's "The Divided Mind." Also chapers 3, 4 and 5 in Dr. Scott Brady's "Pain Free For Life" are very important. |
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