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| mlorizio |
Posted - 08/27/2007 : 08:36:37
I am brand new to this forum but not new to TMS. I am writing today because my wedding is coming up in 6 days and I've just had a severe re-occurence of my back pain.
My history is that I've had serious back pain off and on for the past 4 years+. I tried everything including PT, Cortisone injections etc. but it wasn't until I discovered Dr. Sarno's books in April that I finally thought I had cured myself.
The last couple of weeks have been extremely stressful at work and all of our wedding plans have been coming together as we approach the big day. Suddenly I woke up this Sat. and could barely walk from the back pain.
Does anyone have any advice? I really don't want to limp into the reception and down the aisle. I can think of several things that may be causing some internal rage but despite this the syptoms have not yet subsided. I feel so much pressure to "cure" myself that I think I am now stressing myself out further.
Thank you so much for reading my question and any thoughts would be greatly appreciated. Thanks so much! |
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| mlorizio |
Posted - 08/28/2007 : 14:21:33
Thank you everyone for your very thoughtful responses and encouragement! I will definitely take them to heart as I try to treat myself over the next couple of days (and many more to come I'm sure). I know that these have already contributed a great deal! Thanks again! |
| justme |
Posted - 08/27/2007 : 21:25:38
It has been plainly obvious to me from my own life experiences that the following are major life stressors:
marriage
having kids
moving
changing jobs
I have been known to take on more than one of these at at time, only to result in strong post-stress reactions. My spouse, on the otherhand gets pre-stress reactions to major life changes.
Another thought to consider: You may be very excited about your wedding, but feeling somewhat worried about being so elated. Sometimes when things are going very well for me I get plagued with the fear that something is bound to happen to ruin that in some way -a sort of "this is too good to be true". Remind yourself that you deserve to be happy 6 days before your wedding and on your wedding day, and thereafter.
Congratulations on your wedding and visualize yourself getting ready that day and being very joyful in the experience. |
| drziggles |
Posted - 08/27/2007 : 20:59:24
Calling Dr. Freud...dude, you're getting married in six days! What the hell else do you need to get stressed out about? It's amazing how completely out of touch with our feelings we TMS folks can be. It's a defense mechanism...
You're pissed about losing your autonomy and never getting to have sex with anyone else, as well as the family responsibilities to come. That's all of the stresses of adult life in one day! Doesn't mean it won't be a great day, but it brings up just about every fear a man can have. You might want to start there...Good luck!
Of course, you should consult your doctor before making any medical decisions... |
| Webdan65 |
Posted - 08/27/2007 : 11:43:45
Crash course on TMS treatment is in order.
Obviously thinking about what could be causing you to have these symptoms is a good start. But I'd recommend a marathon journaling session. Some idea starters:
What is your overall perception of marriage?
Do you have any fears or worries about making similar mistakes to parents or family members?
Do you have any fears about your soon to be spouse?
Are you under pressure from friends or family TO get married? Or perhaps NOT to get married?
Has anything during the wedding planning process angered you?
Are you worried about finances? Buying a home? Having children?
Any feelings that you are struggling with as you make this major life change?
Write until you can't write any more....then do it again every day telling yourself that you KNOW your symptoms are from TMS and that it's nothing serious.
Best of luck!!!
Dan |
| sensei adam rostocki |
Posted - 08/27/2007 : 10:01:11
If you are familiar with Sarno, I think you can answer this question for yourself. A wedding is one of the most life changing experiences and is bound to be full of mixed emotions and tons of stress. I just hope your future married life is not dictated by this episode or you are in for a long haul...My best to you, Sensei
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