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| mizlorinj |
Posted - 05/16/2007 : 08:31:18
Chris, sorry, I just noticed I never answered your question about what else I got from my visit w/ Dr. Sarno.
We delved deep into my childhood which I hadn't thought much about--even after reading his books. My fiancee drove me there from NJ and was able to fill in details I ommitted as I was lying on the floor in pain. I said "well, it was strict" and fiancee filled in religious details and the rank my father held in the organization. Dr. Sarno said I was raised to have to be good--and that created rage in me. Most children in a religious (strict) household will have issues with this as you are not allowed to be a child (too much discipline). Talked a lot about that and really I wouldn't have given it that much thought if I hadn't spent time with him. A lot came back to me as I did my writing.
Many on this forum have mentioned that our parents did the best they could. True. BUT that does not mean certain things did not enrage us. I realize my parents thought they were doing the right thing at the time. Later in life this tremendously helped me forgive myself for my memories of the rebellious late-teenager. I realize that though I was a jerk, I had needs and they had to be met w/o my parents approval or in some cases, knowledge. Therefore I forgave myself for my behavior and accept that I was taking care of my needs at the time that only I understood. That was so big for me.
It's so clear we carry around "emotional trash" from things that happened as a kid. Current events trigger memories from the past. I prefer to write about the feelings encountered in my journal and set reasonable expectations about them--this creates freedom from that bond and the memories weaken.
Dr. Sarno is a man of conviction. When I lend out the dvd of his lecture, all my family/friends say how powerfully and full of conviction he speaks.
I am grateful I live in NJ and was able to see him. It was definitely worth the trip and the money. I am not sure he sees patients outside NY/NJ/CT because of follow-up issues (you're too far to go to lecture and forums perhaps?).
Hope that answers your questions, Chris.
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| shawnsmith |
Posted - 05/17/2007 : 07:41:09
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Originally posted by mizlorinj
Dr. Sarno said I was raised to have to be good--and that created rage in me.
-Lori
I can relate to that. I too - in my early years- was bought up in a strict religious environment. We were not even allowd to have a TV or involve ourselves in many of the activities that other children did. There is a wild, untamable animal inside of me that does not want to be good and resents the restrictions placed upon me. Now I am 43 and still trapped by a set of expectations to be good and I have no way to get out of them without utterly destroying everything I have and worked for over the years.
I wonder, at times, about all the societal expectations placed upon us and what impact that they have in our psyche. Gender roles, work rules, cultural codes, religious teachings, rules, rules, rules, etc, which contribute to us repressing our true selves to the point we end up living out our lives for someone else, but never for ourselves.
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Sarno-ize it!
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| chrisb89 |
Posted - 05/17/2007 : 07:10:05
Thanks Lori |
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