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| Susie |
Posted - 10/26/2004 : 08:22:22
One of the big triggers of my tms big back attack is coming up again next week. I cannot help but worry that it will cause some problems. I am sure that if it does I can correct them but I had an idea. I thought I would try a little preventative Sarno. You know, kinda boost my psychological imune system even though I feel fine right now. So I started journaling again this morning,writing down all the things that have aggravated me this month. Along with that I thought,"why not think positive?"So I also made a list of all the good stuff that has happened this month and all the things I feel good about. I read both lists and the good one way outweighed the bad one. The good list also made me feel much happier. So I ask all of you, what's wrong if we, in our journaling procedure , take the time to note all the positive things that have happened in our life as well as the negatives? Sure, we need to understand the sources of our anger but I am beginning to think we also need to note the sources of our joy. I think life is a balancing act and I have decided to treat myself as one also. |
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| menvert |
Posted - 10/26/2004 : 18:07:27
Sarno does consider 'positive' pressures to be just as capable of contributing to our source of internal rage... so I think yes, it's appropriate to Journal positive stuff, as well as negative. It's also important, if you're focusing on emotions to focus on them all .
just as we are not simply a body, our emotions are not simply comprised of negative ones.... so we should be treating the entire person/psyche not just the body and not just the negative thoughts.
Regarding events that you think will trigger pain... I like to at the very least, predict how it is likely to happen... demonstrating to my brain that I know exactly what it's doing. So much so that I can anticipate what it's going to do next.
The next step would then to generate the skill to eliminate the pain in such situations.
If you can't beat it(at the moment) , you can at least show that you know what it's doing and that you can see through this sham. |
| tdk |
Posted - 10/26/2004 : 16:11:00
Susie,
I have a similarly distressing situation rearing its ugly head next week...a trip "home" to see my mother, recently put in assisted living, and a father/sister angry with my brother, a discussion I, as big sister, will need to moderate. I am worried about the tms, too.
Your post is timely. I actually have been starting to do a "negative coping skills vs. positive coping skills" list daily. When I see how my positive skills outweigh the negative ones, I feel better, more confident, healthier inside.
I, for one, do not think endlessly dwelling on the painful stuff makes it better. For those folks who have never faced their issues before, perhaps. I have been dealing with my "stuff" since I was 20 (30 years). It's time for me to focus on the up side, not the down.
Thanks for your great post. TDK |
| Dave |
Posted - 10/26/2004 : 09:31:18
I agree that dealing with TMS is a double-edge sword. When you are aware of the pain it is important to shift your thoughts to negative thoughts and emotions such as those that cause repressed anger.
However, it is also important to be aware of the times when you are not in pain. It is likely that during those times you are succeeding at living in the moment and not being preoccupied with the pain, or with anxious thoughts and emotions. Congratulate yourself and remember what it feels like. Recall those pain-free times when you struggle with TMS, to remind yourself to live in the moment. |
| tennis tom |
Posted - 10/26/2004 : 08:54:33
Sounds like a good strategy Susie-view the glass as half full rather than half empty. Good luck with your upcoming event. I'm sure your strategy will help cushion any TMS negative pain. Being prepared for the event will help to put you in charge, rather than allowing the TMS gremlin to take charge. |
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