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| Agata |
Posted - 10/21/2004 : 06:13:09
What about good emotions?
Are good emotions playing role in TMS?
This question popped up this morning after sleepless night, pain in elbow, little discomfort in my neck – my recent TMS symptoms. I asked myself what triggered that and decided that excitement of last evening had something to do with that. What happened, I got a date for Saturday. It’s kind of blind date. His mother and my client… long story. We spoke on the phone few times and I liked what I heard. Remember, I was married 27 years to my high school sweetheart and this phone relationship created a lot of excitement. Maybe this is the way I suppose to feel. I don’t know because for last 30 years I repressed not only unpleasant but also happy emotions. It wasn’t proper for me to laugh or speak loud, be excited or spontaneous. My husband was quite a stiff upper lip.
Do you think that repressing any emotions can cause TMS? Maybe my brain is not use to expressing happy emotions and tried to repress them and created TMS diversion.
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| menvert |
Posted - 10/22/2004 : 19:08:31
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Originally posted by Agata
What about good emotions?
I don’t know because for last 30 years I repressed not only unpleasant but also happy emotions. It wasn’t proper for me to laugh or speak loud, be excited or spontaneous. My husband was quite a stiff upper lip.
Well, Yes I think good emotions can cause, TMS...
what is significant is what's going on unconsciously... if inside your inner child is enraged by you having fun and such then Yes TMS is likely to increase.
Sarno frequently refers to the fact that positive pressures are just as likely to cause TMS.
More importantly, what you explained, sounds to me like it has a very high likelihood of TMS... going on a date after so long, sounds like a big big step... lots of opportunity for pressures and self-doubt & confusion about how we 'should' act.
That being said, I also have repressed the good emotions for a long time .
when I was young, my neighbour made me feel embarrassed and silly for laughing and being happy... so I stopped it.
I often get TMS flareups after making progress in my life... if I've pushed through a fear the night before, by going to a party or something more often than not I will have a flareup the next day.
From what I can see has something to do with my unconscious/inner child feeling like it is losing control, because I'm not taking notice of fear and pain anymore and moving on with my life.... |
| Kajsa |
Posted - 10/21/2004 : 07:01:43
[quote]Originally posted by Agata
What about good emotions?
Are good emotions playing role in TMS?
Oh, yes they are!
I was married for 20 years with a man who was "kind of a brother". I loved him like a brother and he was (is) a god friend. But we never
really had a "love relationship".
I would have liked that (more passion) but my husband was very much afraid of any strong feeling. Included sexual feelings.
Two years ago I met a man who I had a short relation with when I was
17 years old ( I am 43 today).
After 20 years in total monogami and a really strong friendship with my husband -I "threw myself in the arms of my passion from the youth"
Belive me - it´s not the way I usually behave! I am a very serious person. Scandinavia is wellknown for being sexliberal, I know that, but that has never included me!
But I felt that I had ignored my body for so long and I just couldn´t go on doing that.
I felt that the lack of sex (and tenderness) was part of my painsyndrome.
I left my husband (but we are still friends -he IS a good brother and
I am a sister to him) and I am now in the middle of a passionate love affair with my boyfrend from the past (sounds like a VERY
bad novel I guess).
Ofcourse this process was strong and FULL of emotions.
In the beginning it increased my pain and my fatigue a lot! -but in the long run it was very good for my condition.
Do not avoid positive feelings ! In the beginning they can be a trigger and make your pain worse -because your neurvous system is
so sensitive.
But in the long run positive emotions are very good for your recovery.
All the best
Kajsa
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