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| alexis |
Posted - 12/15/2006 : 11:22:21
In the "Pain Free for Life by Scott Brady MD Topic" Tennis Tom has given a good description of his reasons for reading sparingly and eventually leaving this board. He also mentions some ways he did and did not find time on the board helpful:
http://www.tmshelp.com/forum/topic.asp?TOPIC_ID=2883&whichpage=4
This is an interesting question I am facing myself. I want to learn from the ideas and experiences of those here and definitely to be inspired by the success stories. Yet I am worried about obsessing about TMS *in theory* to the point that it becomes in itself a distraction, and possibly also something of a reinforcing agent. I was wondering how others have handled this issue, and what types of limits they have put on reading and thinking about TMS?
Right now I'm thinking that since I'm relatively new to the subject my focus has been healthy inquiry, but that I am already trying to pull back and not allow myself to identify to much with a TMS identity and instead to focus more on other things which may contribute to recovery.
One thing I have found useful about reading various people's ideas is to see that not everyone necessarily buys into every aspect of the theory, yet there is consensus for the most part that there is something at the core that is correct. One of my hesitations at first was in reading postings in various places that gave me the idea that most TMSers were buying it all (everything Sarno ever mentions is tms, the mechanism *must* be oxygen deprivation...). Now I see there is a lot more balanced approach even among those who have been able to "buy into" the core idea and recover.
But I do foresee an issue of diminishing returns in reading this board for too long too often. Or even negative returns. So I was hoping to hear how others have balanced this? I guess I won't be hearing from too many people who left altogether.  |
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| Stryder |
Posted - 12/15/2006 : 21:13:53
alexis said: But I do foresee an issue of diminishing returns in reading this board for too long too often.
I read and post when I need it, but do have to take a break as not to get overloaded. I'm not on every day like I used to be. Do what works for you.
alexis said: always know that I should type things out first in Word and then paste them into these little boxes,,,
I use Notepad since Notepad is so stupid its crash proof,,, then paste into the forum box to post.
Take care, -Stryder |
| armchairlinguist |
Posted - 12/15/2006 : 16:52:45
Long enough to learn about other people's approaches and insights, but not long enough to be depressed by people's symptoms, defensiveness, and general nonsense.
And, if you want, long enough to feel that you have a few insights to give back.
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Wherever you go, there you are. |
| Littlebird |
Posted - 12/15/2006 : 14:32:47
Now that's a great idea, SS!
Alexis, I think it's pretty normal in the early part of learning to spend quite a bit of time doing the analysis that you've been doing. Figuring out how other people have reached success and seeing their doubts and struggles has kept me from getting discouraged before I started to make real progress. And some of the feelings people mention trigger me to realize that I've had similar feelings without really being aware of them, so that's kind of opened my eyes to things that have been bothering me on an unconscious level.
But, I feel like I'm rapidly approaching a point where I won't be inclined to check in every day as I've been doing. I'm making good progress with my symptoms and feeling confident that I can get to a good level of recovery. Then I'll be too busy catching up on life to be sitting at the computer for anything other than "work." I think it's nice of the people who've recovered to check in sometimes and see what the new folks are dealing with. Sometimes a new person needs to hear from someone whose pain experience was very similar to theirs in order to develop confidence that they do really have TMS, and it's great that the old-timers here have been supportive.
In the time that I've been here people who were posting a lot have withdrawn, and I'm not sure if they're just reading occasionally or reading but not posting, but I suspect most of us will get to that point.
Corey |
| sonora sky |
Posted - 12/15/2006 : 12:54:57
Just a hint (losing emails and posts used to happen to me all the time!): I've gotten in the habit of highlighting the text and copying it before sending the message (edit-->copy, ctrl-"c", or right-clicking). That way, when you then hit send and it doesn't go through, you can easily go back to a new 'compose' box, put your cursor in it, and 'paste'--and it's there. I do it every time now; it's a quick and easy way to eliminate a bit of frustration in our high-tech lives.
best,
ss |
| alexis |
Posted - 12/15/2006 : 12:27:58
Oh, I hate that! And it's so depressing to have to retype something you've already written. I always know that I should type things out first in Word and then paste them into these little boxes, but in reality I rarely do that. Well, whenever you do get the chance I would love to hear any more ideas you have on the subject. Thanks for taking the time to answer, even if it never made it onto the board! |
| tennis tom |
Posted - 12/15/2006 : 12:08:45
Well I had a great reply to your quetions Alexis and lost a whole page. It's one of the reasons I don't like this medium. It's frustrateing working with the vagaries of the internet and computers adding to the internal resorvoir of TMS rage.
I'll try to resurrect it for you later but right now I am going to go outdoors and perform some NORMAL ACTIVITY.
See ya' later. |
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