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| Penny |
Posted - 09/06/2006 : 11:27:22
Ok, I can't believe this and need a different perspective from you guys.
A friend of mine has been seeing a therapist. She is MAJOR TMSer and been on disability for a long time, injections, meds, surgery pending. I've told her about TMS and my recovery from FMS and CPS migraines etc. and still she's not ready to entertain the idea for herself. I try to distance myself from her b/c I really don't feel I can help her and talking about symptoms all the time does not aid my recovery (or hers).
She's been seeing a psychologist for months. I just started last week. Only my husband knows I'm seeing a therapist. I'm not ashamed by it, but I just don't want to have to explain myself or my TMS.
I was talking with my friend today and she referenced her psychologist by name and GULP ....... I realized we are seeing the SAME PSYCHOLOGIST!!!!! She has an appt the same day as me next week. I know I can get the time of her appt out of her beforehand, but given this coincidence, I'd bet a million bucks we are scheduled back to back. I will be walking in as she walks out ... bump smack dab into each other in his tiny office. What do I do? Do I tell her beforehand? Do I tell him that I don't want her to know and schedule me at different times? She would be really upset with me over this. I mean it would be obvious to her that I know. She tells about her therapy, and I've never even told her I've begun therapy, let alone we are going to the same fella.
Gosh, as if psychotherapy isn't challenging enough without this doozy thrown in. Thanks for reading.
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| Penny |
Posted - 09/07/2006 : 09:15:40
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Originally posted by cheeryquery
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Penny, life is too short to worry about stuff like this imho. Why on earth would she be upset and why should you care, anyway? Like you are going to sit around with this therapist and talk about her? Of course not.
Very good point indeed! Why do I care so much what she thinks? I guess I don't want to hurt her feelings and make her realize that I don't confide in her as she confides in me. Oh well, if we bump, we bump. Thanks for the clarity. I knew you guys would help me think about it differently!
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| cheeryquery |
Posted - 09/07/2006 : 02:34:41
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She would be really upset with me over this. I mean it would be obvious to her that I know. She tells about her therapy, and I've never even told her I've begun therapy, let alone we are going to the same fella.
Penny, life is too short to worry about stuff like this imho. Why on earth would she be upset and why should you care, anyway? Like you are going to sit around with this therapist and talk about her? Of course not.
But you do have the right to privacy if you want it. If the therapist doesn't cooperate there's something strange about that, too. |
| Penny |
Posted - 09/06/2006 : 14:24:15
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Originally posted by sonora sky
BTW, have you told your therapist about Sarno/TMS? What does he think about it?
best,
ss
Thanks ... I'm desperate to get into the swing of therapy and don't know which is worse, rescheduling and waiting yet ANOTHER week for our 2nd session, or bumping into her. I think the former. If I see her Monday, I'll say, What a coincidence! I was wondering if we were seeing the same doctor, when you said he was next to Friendly's.
If I don't bump into her, I'll ask the therapist to avoid scheduling me near her in the future.
Sonora, I did a telephone interview with my therapist before I met him. I told him about Sarno and TMS and told him about the analysis work I have done the past couple months. I asked him what he thought of psychosomatic schtuff. His response knocked me over ... he said he believed that mind and body are one and gave a wonderful explanation about disease and disease process being impacted by emotion or lack of. At that time I wondered if he was just giving me "a line" as it was obvious by my questions that I only wanted a person who believed in TMS theory. When I met him in person I asked him if his belief was shared by his profession and he said no, that most psychotherapists believe disease and emotion exist in duality and not alignment. He continued to impress me and I'm hooked!!!! That's why I don't want to give this fella up. I don't know what he has done for my friend --she continues to have mega pain probs-- but I intend to continue to get better with psychotherapy at the same time (perhaps) WOW him with my newfound understanding of TMS that has disarmed my fibro, stopped a migraine, and ended ALL my carpal tunnel symptoms. I told him I specifically wanted psychotherapy, and our first session he asked some difficult questions and honed right in on my aversion to depression medication and exposed some possible unconcious reactions over my younger daughter beginning kindergarten.
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| Mary Ann |
Posted - 09/06/2006 : 13:11:54
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Originally posted by art
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Years ago I lent her MBP (never got it back) and she didn't even read it. I think she's addicted to the drama of her health problems and I can't be part of it any more, so I can very much sympathize with your situation.
I had to laugh mary Ann 'cause I never got my copy back either. If they think it's a lot of hogwash, why do the insist on keeping the book? 
In my case, she confessed to spilling a big glass of red wine over the book, making it unreadable. So to be more accurate, she never returned it because she destroyed it (and hence why she never finished it).
But there must be something to the trend of not returning/not reading because I never got my copy of HBP back from my cousin either. As far as know it is still intact (and unread). I just lent another copy of MBP out to another friend and suspect that it is still unread. I'm going to ask for it back though. It's getting expensive to replace all these books!
Mary Ann |
| sonora sky |
Posted - 09/06/2006 : 12:25:00
I agree w/Mary Ann. Talk to your therapist about rescheduling. I think he'll understand. BTW, have you told your therapist about Sarno/TMS? What does he think about it?
best,
ss |
| art |
Posted - 09/06/2006 : 12:09:27
quote:
Years ago I lent her MBP (never got it back) and she didn't even read it. I think she's addicted to the drama of her health problems and I can't be part of it any more, so I can very much sympathize with your situation.
I had to laugh mary Ann 'cause I never got my copy back either. If they think it's a lot of hogwash, why do the insist on keeping the book? |
| Mary Ann |
Posted - 09/06/2006 : 12:04:36
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Originally posted by Penny
Ok, I can't believe this and need a different perspective from you guys.
A friend of mine has been seeing a therapist. She is MAJOR TMSer and been on disability for a long time, injections, meds, surgery pending. I've told her about TMS and my recovery from FMS and CPS migraines etc. and still she's not ready to entertain the idea for herself. I try to distance myself from her b/c I really don't feel I can help her and talking about symptoms all the time does not aid my recovery (or hers).
She's been seeing a psychologist for months. I just started last week. Only my husband knows I'm seeing a therapist. I'm not ashamed by it, but I just don't want to have to explain myself or my TMS.
I was talking with my friend today and she referenced her psychologist by name and GULP ....... I realized we are seeing the SAME PSYCHOLOGIST!!!!! She has an appt the same day as me next week. I know I can get the time of her appt out of her beforehand, but given this coincidence, I'd bet a million bucks we are scheduled back to back. I will be walking in as she walks out ... bump smack dab into each other in his tiny office. What do I do? Do I tell her beforehand? Do I tell him that I don't want her to know and schedule me at different times? She would be really upset with me over this. I mean it would be obvious to her that I know. She tells about her therapy, and I've never even told her I've begun therapy, let alone we are going to the same fella.
Gosh, as if psychotherapy isn't challenging enough without this doozy thrown in. Thanks for reading.
>|< Penny
Non illigitamus carborundum.
You know, it's perfectly fine to want to keep your treatment to yourself. I would call your therapist and let him know your dilemma. I'm sure he would accommodate you and schedule you separately.
Don't sweat that you haven't told her. I think distancing yourself from her is a sound approach for your own sanity and health. Unfortunately, I'm in a similar situation with one of my friends and I have found I've had to back off our friendship since I've "recovered" and she is still hip deep in serious problems. Years ago I lent her MBP (never got it back) and she didn't even read it. I think she's addicted to the drama of her health problems and I can't be part of it any more, so I can very much sympathize with your situation.
Best of luck!
Mary Ann |
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