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| JohnD |
Posted - 08/12/2004 : 08:32:24
I've taken some time to observe my own journey in overcoming TMS and also have read about many others journeys on this forum as well.
One thing I noticed with myself was that it took me a while to focus on the actual work of TMS. I was so busy trying to find the perfect way to overcome it or the magic pill, and I realized that this search became another distraction from facing myself, and doing the real work. It was just another wild goose chase that the perfectionist in me got involved in.
What I have learned is that I can search all day long and I'm sure there are good methods out there, but I could go on forever trying to keep finding a better way. I realized that the real answer is within. What I really needed was to just sit with my own feelings, and let them come out. I also needed to restructure my thinking so that it became more in tune with reality. These two things, IMO, are the nuts and bolts of tms. It takes time to change but it is possible, but we need to be realistic and gentle with ourselves as we undo years of conditioning. |
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| diverlarry |
Posted - 08/13/2004 : 09:30:59
I also have been doing the same thing. Trying to determine the "perfect" book or method. But each book does add something.
I had been thinking i was looking to much vs focusing on the psychological. The mind is very stubborn. Sometimes when i read something here...a light goes off in my head and i say " Thats Right....now why didn't i realize that earlier ! ".
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| Steve |
Posted - 08/12/2004 : 15:44:12
Ahhhhhhh....this form of procrastination was so common for me. For 2 months I searched for the perfect book (Sarno's? Amir's? Selfridge's? etc.), the perfect meditation audio tape, the perfect workbork to write my thoughts it, the perfect message board (found it here, of course) etc. Then I realized my brain was doing this to keep me from truly doing what I needed to do to get better: focus on the psychological and painful emotions. Take the time to really explore what's going on. Each time I tried this I found that my brain would try and pull me away with other distractions. It's a stubborn little booger, in't it!!! |
| khamira |
Posted - 08/12/2004 : 12:03:04
hi, what you wrote is exactly what i have been doing---searching and searching for that perfect cure method/magic pill. i just posted under the heading " a doctors dilemma" first time in this forum. if you get a chance plz read it and advice me. thanks |
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