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| 2scoops |
Posted - 12/02/2005 : 19:53:12
I have heard some say that TMS can be caused by childhood. I am having trouble remebering mine and I am only 29. It's hard for me to remember my relationship with my parents other family. Is there a trick? I would really appreciate any tips. |
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| miehnesor |
Posted - 12/03/2005 : 20:51:29
Dialog to yourself as much detail as you can about what you do remember. Then think about what feelings you must have had in each of these scenes. If you can, do some visualizations and pretend to actually be that 4 or 5 year old and be in the scene not just an outside observer. Notice if you feel anything and let yourself have the feeling. Be supper patient with your feelings. They may not come for a long time but don't give up. They are there and will come out when they are ready to. If you want to investigate feelings more I recommend inner child stuff. It's real powerful but it does take a lot of time. Also you may need to find someone to talk to about this stuff that you feel safe with. That's read important.
When I started doing inner child work i didn't remember anything either but eventually the emotions started coming- but it takes a lot of patience and time. Interestingly in my case when I started feeling, the emotion did not come with an attached scene suggesting that the feeling was coming from an early part of my life. |
| 2scoops |
Posted - 12/03/2005 : 17:39:56
Well, some of the only incidents I can remem are when I was 5, 6, or 7, my family was downtown for a chriatmas tree lighting. When we were walking away, I stopped to look at the tree adn my family was gone, I was lost arounf hundreds of people for aout thirty minutes.When I was four, I walked to the store by myself to a store and a cop saw me, and took me home, but he went around my twice before he let me go.
I do have an older brother and sister. My sister told me about three months ago that my mother was committed to a mental place for having a break down. I believe this was beofre I was born, or I may have been in the womb. My sister made me promise that I would not tell anyone, because my aunt told her. I want to ask my aunt more about it, but Idon't want to go against my sister. Evidently, my mother was chanting, and written on the house walls. This may have happened before they moved. But my sister said something like my mom was gone for maybe a year and she had to pretty much take care of my older btbrother, but I'm not sure if I was born. There's a 2 year age gap between all of us children. |
| ralphyde |
Posted - 12/03/2005 : 13:22:15
If you can't remember anything from your childhood, it implies that you have repressed a lot, and possibly a lot of anger, at neglect? abuse? shame? betrayal? who knows. You could start with objective facts, like, were your parents divorced? (this is a common source of anger). Were there stepparents? can you remember the house you lived in then? or any teachers? or schools? Do you have any brothers or sisters who could help you jog your memory?
I'm just suggesting that if you start with some of the facts, other associated events or people might pop into your memory. But I think it's the process of searching that may be at least as valuable as what you actually find. Just my opinion, as I have very few memories of my mother, who died when I was eleven without me knowing she was dying.
Ralph |
| n/a |
Posted - 12/03/2005 : 09:31:17
You cannot remember one incident from your childhood? Try to go back as early as possible in your mind. Remember, you may not always find the source of your TMS. It is the process of thinking about the possible sources of your inward tension that is the key to recovery. You are taking your attention way from your bodily symptoms and thinking about what is going on inside of you. TMS is there to keep you involved with your pain or other physical pain and keep you diverted from your inner rage and anxiety. |
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