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| Suz |
Posted - 06/29/2005 : 11:36:45
Does anyone have any take on when one can stop psychology? Surely one can become dependant and worry that the pain will come back if one stops - sort of like fear of exercise. Any thoughts on this from anyone who has recovered from using therapy? |
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| Fredarm57 |
Posted - 06/30/2005 : 19:56:13
I've had better luck with psychologists (Phd's or PsyD's) and social workers (MSW's or LICSW's). They can't prescribe, so they have to do the counseling.
Fred |
| aorta |
Posted - 06/30/2005 : 15:14:00
I think i am letting go as of today. My psychologist was a medical doctor for 30 years and is highly respected. My problem is bowel disorder, abdominal pain, neck pain, and constant neuropathy in my limbs. Psychologically, this has saddened my normal happy life with my wife and daughter.
His solution?
Increase my AD, and consider having an affair with a younger attractive woman.
For this i pay him 150.00.
And hes the best one ive been to so far.
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| mala |
Posted - 06/29/2005 : 19:23:26
Suz,there is only one way to find out. Just do it. I mean give it up for a while . If you do this, do it knowing that:
a) The pain may get worse before it gets better and remember this is likely to happen at any time you decide to give it up be it now or 10 yrs later coz the mind will put up a fight.
b)You can always go back to therapy if you feel at any stage you are not ready to let go.
c) You now know after having been in therapy as to what issues you need to deal with and some strategies on how to deal with them.
d) Have a friend whom you like and trust and can talk to comfortably. Someone you can talk to who will not judge or intefere, just listen.
But ultimately the choice is yours. If you are going to stop you must give it time and know that it is the right thing to do. If you continue, do it knowing that it is the right thing to do too. Either way you win.
Good Luck & Good Health
Mala |
| Baseball65 |
Posted - 06/29/2005 : 16:55:19
Hi Suz.
Hell,if I could afford it I'd still go to therapy.Unless it's a financial drain or troublesome with your schedule,I can't think of a reason NOT to continually learn more about yourself .
Now,sometimes you might want to take a break or try a different method,but for all intents and purposes,we are all(TMSers) sort of in perma-therapy.I'm sure I'm not alone in purging my rage and emotions via paper or a friend or pastor/Rabbi/Mullah...... whatever????
A paid therapist at least can bring your personal experience into a cohesive context,as most of us tend to ramble a bit when just unloading on a friend.
Now if: quote:
Surely one can become dependant and worry that the pain will come back if one stops
if this is true,than this is something you need to turn your TMS radio in on.Your therapist is NOT making you recover,you are.They are just guiding and reflecting.....you're the one doing the work and feeling the pain/growth/fear/release.
Anything can be a placebo,but if you use your TMS skills any placebo can be neutralized.....it's already inside of you!!
peace
Baseball65 |
| ssjs |
Posted - 06/29/2005 : 16:41:57
I have been in therapy on and off for 20 years. And I must say, I think I have had a better outcome than Woody Allen!
We used to talk about things associated with pain alot. I became pain free, but then started working on other parts of myself. Now I rarely ever mention pain...whatever we talk about helps me get beyond.
If I had a mom I could talk to, or a dad in a healthy way, I wouldn't ween myself from them! This person I pay has taken the place of them, and is also as objective as possible.
For me it is a luxury I deserve. Like people who need cleaning women to stay sane, or a dishwasher, or a even mate.
My parents weren't up to the task, so unfortunetly I have to pay...but not by being in pain.
So I come and go, but I know that I will always have someone I can depend on....different than my husband...different than a friend.
I lead a fuller life than I ever imagined. So if that is because I am dependent on her...so be it!
At least it is a dependancy that makes me more healthy. Not less.
Just when I think there is nothing left to talk about...I have a breakthrough.
Don't break it off to soon.Just when we feel well, we think it is enough. That is when you need more time for the extra support. Before you get pulled back under again!
Sandy
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| 2scoops |
Posted - 06/29/2005 : 11:58:36
Well inmy opinion, maybe that fear will allow the pain to continue or come back. If therapy has shown you things that you may not have uncovered yourself and helped you become pain-free, then it's effectiveness may be complete. I believe worry and fear allow this pain syndrome to be complete. I think you have to remeber why Sarno's theory has worked for you. It's because you have identified that repressed emotions have allowed you to have a pain syndrome. If you become so dependent on therapy and fear the pain will come back, then it may. I know in one of Sarno's books says that people admit to be worriers, and I believe that is one of the reasons why I have TMS. Worry never accomplishes anything, it will not add one hour to your life, it only hurts. |
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