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Screensize: 640 x 480 800 x 600 1024 x 768 1280 x 1024 UserName: Password: Format Mode: Basic  Help  Prompt  Format: Font Andale Mono Arial Arial Black Book Antiqua Century Gothic Comic Sans MS Courier New Georgia Impact Lucida Console Script MT Bold Stencil Tahoma Times New Roman Trebuchet MS Verdana   Size 1 2 3 4 5 6   Color Black Red Yellow Pink Green Orange Purple Blue Beige Brown Teal Navy Maroon LimeGreen Message: * HTML is OFF * Forum Code is ON Smilies [quote][i]Originally posted by shari[/i] [br]Dr. Sarno often mentions shame as one of the principal emotions we repress. When we think "shame" we think about the result of words or actions inflicted on us by others. The other type of shame, which is much harder to recognize, is the shame we repress as offenders. Offender's shame is hard to recognize because we like to think ourselves as being good people. And yet, all of us, at some point in our life, involuntarily or by being insensitive or ignorant, have inflicted pain on others. Admitting guilt brings shame, and this is unacceptable to the ego. It's easier to either deny that we did something wrong, or justify it, or shift the blame to the victim. But deep inside we know, without admitting it, that we did something wrong and, consciously or not, we repress these embarrassing feelings. It can be difficult and painful to recall events and emotions that made us victims. It's a lot harder and very painful to recall events and emotions in which we were the offender. [/quote]   Check here to include your profile signature.